6 years ago I got
adult acne a temp-to-hire job as a Tenant Coordinator at 650 California street in SF where I was responsible for shit like paging building engineers on their Walkie Talkies in an effort to alert them of a ruptured urinal in the Men's bathroom of some random finance company like Credit Suisse or Dow Jone Ventures or whatever. I figured the multitude of menial tasks I was responsible for were worth taking on if it meant that in exchange I got to be a functioning member of society who could barely pay her rent and be a part of this spectacularly weird town they call San Francisco.
It was a trade-off really: ping Reginald the engineer and make him aware of the onslaught of engorged cock roaches pervading the ladies bathroom on the 16th floor and in return be afforded the opportunity to indulge in a boozy brunch at Perry's with my delinquent friends on Sundays.
I was settling. Settling for a job I knew I wasn't meant for - one that was purely a means to an end. It was a place where I spent the majority of my time, and yet I'd walk in every morning knowing full well I'd spend the subsequent 8 hours as the human equivalent of a limp dick. I'll admit it: I've settled a lot in the past: I've settled for crumbs I've gotten from guys I know I have no future with because it's easy and because I'm a girl
Moreover, the older I get the more I realize how much I
|PRINCE SEEMED LIKE SOMEONE WHO NEVER SETTLED.|
I got to thinking about my own bucket list, and what my life would look like if I never, ever settled again, which is henceforward my ultimate goal. Below is a list I compiled of life things that one should never, ever settle for:
Don't settle for a shitty job.
Sweet Mother of Christ if there's anything in life I regret it's the fact that I've
Don't settle for something that's broken but can be easily fixed
The letter "j" doesn't work on my keyboard, so I have to cut and paste it from other articles every fucking time I need to use it. As of now, I've settled for my bunk keyboard and consequently my life is unnecessarily more difficult. I type a lot - there's no reason I shouldn't have a pristine, full-functioning keyboard, goddammit. I'm a
Don't settle for banality
I've always wanted to build an animal sanctuary somewhere in middle America (and now I have that Counting Crows song in my head). I'd live like Dr. Doolittle and in the morning when I woke up I'd emerge from my tree house and exclaim "Come to me Jungle Friends" as I'm greeted by a barrage of the animals inhabiting my sanctuary and holy shit this looks so weird on paper DONT UDGE ME AND MY DREAMS (please notice what letter is missing in this statement - it's a product of me settling). Okay, having a zoo on my property one day might be a stretch, but my point is: there's no reason that your (or my) life shouldn't be just as exciting as Beyonce's and OH MY GOD I'M MORPHING INTO TONY ROBBINS BY THE SECOND.
Don't settle in love
Um, yeah, this is the most important point I want to make here. I would never settle for someone who doesn't understand and accept me or what I've asserted in bullet points 1, 2, and 3 (or in this entire blog). I once dated a guy who
The other day I got upset because someone I don't know told my sister she thought I was "out there." I settled for her opinion and let it affect me. The only person whose opinion of me that matters is my own. Not the opinion of Debra from my sister's PTA meeting, not the dipshit dickwad from Bumble and not the Asian man from the corner store who scowls every time I come in and purchase ZzzQuil and a crunch bar. My point: letting someone's perception of you affect you is a form of settling. Don't settle for anyone or anything that makes you feel inferior or badly about yourself. And, that's it - I am Tony Robbins.
And in conclusion may I please remind you that it does not say RSVP on the Statue of Liberty.
(Sorry, I couldn't think of a way to wrap this up.)
Please always remember:
We aren't fucking pilgrims;
We don't settle.